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Chocolate on Mondays: Culinary Fails, Lost Confidence–Is Hospitality Worth It?

September 26, 2015

Culinary fails. Lost confidence. Is hospitality worth it?

Here’s my latest fail – last Monday. Multi-tasking is overrated.

Hospitality confidence

Today Melody writes from North Carolina–the South–where no one makes mistakes, right?

I met Melody–the Sorta-Sassy Pastor’s wife–when we both linked up on ThreeWordWednesday. I’m not sure how that happened since we’re both women of more than three words, but I’m so glad we met! Or will meet if the Man-in-Plaid decides we need to go on a road trip to the South. And now we’ll have friends as well as cousins! That is the reason for a vacation: people.  My mom would agree. One summer she asked Dad if they could visit everyone on their Christmas List (whether they liked them or not.) It was a very long trip. Dad was a very patient man.

Melody writes over at: You can already tell she’s sassy. What I love is her honesty about feeling challenged in the area of hospitality, yet she’s smart enough to go ahead and try. Good to know she hasn’t killed anybody yet.

Is hospitality worth it?

I loved this post and asked her specially if I could share with you. If you relate at all, go on and give her a shout out below, and check out her blog. I’ll let her tell you, “Why wedgies?”

Here’s Melody:

Do you ever feel overwhelmed at the thought of having people over to your house for dinner? Like you want to really badly but you’re pretty certain you’ll burn the beans, send the twice baked potatoes flying across the room (true story) or forget to put out silverware along with sending your guests home with salmonella?

Confession: I do.

I haven’t always felt that way but in the last few years I’ve grown more inhibited in the area of hospitality. It took a few epic kitchen fails to put me in a, “I’m not good at this anymore. I can’t do this” attitude.

A few weeks ago I was thanking a sweet lady in our church for the ice cream dessert she brought us when I was down with my leg and asked her for the recipe. She said, “Melody, I’ll tell you what. I’ll give you the recipe but I’ll also make it for you when you have company over sometime.”

I said, “Yeah, well, about that…. I’ve not been doing much of that lately because I’ve lost all confidence in cooking and being a good hostess. But I really want to get back into it. Will you pray for me in this area.” She agreed to do that for me. I thanked her for the offer to make dessert and told her I would take her up on it hopefully sooner than later.

Since that conversation we’ve had several families over for Sunday lunch and guess what – I didn’t kill any of them! I found a few things that made it easier on me to serve and lessen the stress. I purposed in my heart ahead of time that this was not about the food or how I entertained. It was simply about being with people and enjoying the time together. And it worked out just fine. Sure, I forgot to put out the napkins but someone else got them for me. And actually the green beans needed more salt but it wasn’t a big deal. I didn’t make a dessert but someone showed up with two pies. It all worked out.

So a few things come to mind:

1) God hears our prayers. Even the simple ones from the kitchen sink.

2) Hospitality comes in all forms – sometimes it’s offering to make a dessert for someone else’s  dinner party. And sometimes it’s inviting people over for a simple meal.

3) Having people over doesn’t have to be a huge deal especially when we get our thinking right.

Check back for more on hospitality this week. We’ll talk about easy recipes, ways to keep it simple and alternative meal options. Hope you’ll join us and always feel free to join the conversation by leaving a comment.

She’s got another post up on hospitality–this time–missionaries come for lunch, last-second meltdown. Been there, done that. Thanks, new friend.

Photo on 8-6-15 at 11.08 AMMelody is a self acclaimed prankster and lover of all things chocolate. Pink tulips make her squeal with delight, but nothing gets to her heart more than hearing how people come into a real relationship with Jesus. She has learned that life can be hard – bowl-of-wedgies hard. But as we accept those uncomfortable things and look for God in them, we will be better people for it.

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  • Reply Becky Jones September 27, 2015 at 5:37 pm

    I wrote Melody and we will be friends if we can manage it. She seemed so sweet. Glad to meet new Southern girls on you blog especially that are Christian. She seems very open and Southern.

  • Reply Melody Hester September 28, 2015 at 6:02 am

    Oh Sue…’s funny how I needed to read and take to heart my own advice especially since having the epic roast fail LAST NIGHT. Might blog about that one and all I’m learning right now. Thanks for your sweet words of encouragement. I love and laugh at God’s timing sometimes.

  • I do talk to myself (a lot) — but I’d love to hear what you might have to say HERE: