Stirring the parenting pot today. A good stir* in the right direction, although it works for all relationships.
What’s the most important thing you can do for your children?
There are more books on parenting than pairs of black shoes in the average woman’s closet. When our girls were small, I tried to read one parenting book, maybe two. Remember the brain blurr of early life ? Did you ever finish reading a book? If I had an hour to myself, I preferred shopping for black shoes.
Maybe you’re still in that blurr. Maybe you don’t know how you got to this blog. Maybe you wish you could go take a nap. I think you should. Go ahead. It’s amazing to me that moms can dole out–
permission to go ice skating when it’s 10 below
permission to go the movies with boys and girls as long as there’s an uneven number of boys and girls
permission to go to USC even though it will slow up the kitchen remodel for 4 more years
Yes, we dole out the permissions, but we forget to give ourselves permission. Want to take a nap? I’ll help. Permission granted.
Back to parenting. I like to read, but a book doesn’t help when I’m tired, frustrated, and maybe a little bit disappointed with myself, the Man-in-Plaid, the girls, the dog—the world in general.
What does help?
Making myself a cup of coffee in the afternoon and calling my girlfriend.
Making myself leash up the Holli-dog and trot around the neighborhood—maybe twice around the neighborhood.
Making myself remember the most important thing I can do for my children is to make God my most important thing.
That’s it. Make God my most important thing.
Dallas Willard put it this way:
You must arrange your days so that you are experiencing total contentment, joy, and confidence in your everyday life with God–that and that alone is what makes a soul healthy. (as quoted in John Ortberg’s Soulkeeping)
How do I know that making God my most important thing is the most important thing I can do for my kids?
I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. John 15:5
When I abide in Jesus, my kids benefit.
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. Colossians 3:15
When Christ rules in me, when I have His peace—everyone benefits.
And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. Colossians 3:15,17
When I let Christ sink down in my soul and live gratefully, God works more easily through my fragile frame.
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33
When God’s kingdom is on my radar – when He’s first on my often cracked radar –He fills in those cracks. And my kids know how much they are loved.
Blessed is the one whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered…I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord.” And you forgave the guilt of my sin. Psalm 32:1,5
When I confess quickly–and accept thoroughly–all the forgiveness He died to give–I judge less. I love more.
That’s how I know it’s the most important thing.
Abiding in Christ
Giving Him full reign
Setting my mind on His kingdom
Keeping short accounts with the Great Forgiver
How else can we make God our most important thing? Figure it out. Your kids, your spouse, your friends–need you to figure it out. Mine, too.
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* And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works. Hebrews 10:24
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