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Self-Addiction and Cage-Rattling

June 19, 2016

Part of growing up is leaving yourself behind.

“Lord, save us from self-addiction.”

Donald Miller

When disaster strikes, it rattles my cage. Disasters are relative. (Some relatives are disasters.)

I’m fairly sure God rattles cages to get my attention. Not arbitrary. Not malicious. Not because He’s bored. He doesn’t wield disaster with delight. “Wow. She didn’t know that one was coming. Hahahah.”

God does allow shake-ups for one big reason: we’re holding on too tight to the cage.

Lord, save me from self-addiction

My cages all begin with the S-word:




Self-reliance (sorry, Emerson)




Self-preoccupation (navel gazing)

Want to add to my list? I’m sure I missed one.

I’m a little too attached to Self. Don Miller got it right–here’s a prayer God loves to hear:

It can take a cage-rattling disaster to shake me from my Self. Or just losing my cell phone for an hour–pathetic how that works, too.

God doesn’t relish my discomfort. He gets it.

He knows how it feels.We don’t have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He’s been through weakness and testing, experienced it all—all but the sin. Hebrews 4:14-16 The Message

…all but the sin.

God didn’t make my cages. God wants my freedom.

If you stick with this, living out what I tell you, you are my disciples for sure. Then you will experience for yourselves the truth, and the truth will free you.- Jesus  John 8:31, 32 The Message

…and the truth will free you.


He does want my trust.

Trust Me with this one, Sue. I’ve got it. You can let go. You can leave yourself behind.




Prayer for Rattled Cages:


Thanks for getting my attention. I hate disaster, pain and sweating. I’d rather not endure, withstand, nor cope with anything that begins with “cope with.” I do love You–occasionally, even more than myself. So thanks for getting my attention. In fact, please get my attention, by hook or by crook or by disaster. I’d prefer a perfect life, but I know that comes later. And when my cage rattles, help me remember my new favorite prayer: Save me from self-addiction.

Love, Sue

Free printable:

Lord, save me from self-addiction

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  • Reply Ginger Harrington June 20, 2016 at 7:33 am

    So true, Sue. It’s so easy to stay self-focused. I haven’t thought of it as an addiction, but it fits the bill doesn’t it? This fits with my next post, so I will link to your post. Have a great week and thanks for hanging out on my blog recently:)

    • Reply Sue June 20, 2016 at 10:48 am

      thanks, ginger – it does! blessings today!

  • Reply Suzanne June 20, 2016 at 9:56 am

    Preaching to self. Thanks for the reminder. Jesus first, others next, self last equals Joy!

    • Reply Sue June 20, 2016 at 10:47 am

      su preaching, mi preaching. (:

  • Reply Chelsea Tadena June 21, 2016 at 12:04 pm

    Whew…. this is a good one.

  • Reply Dolly Lee (@SoulStops) June 21, 2016 at 1:25 pm

    Hi Sue,

    So grateful for God’s grace in the process of learning to focus more on God than on myself or maybe it is learning to see myself through God’s eyes?

    • Reply Sue June 23, 2016 at 9:55 am

      both, I’m thinking – thanks, dolly

  • Reply Crystal Twaddell June 21, 2016 at 6:08 pm

    And all of this truth makes me so thankful for mercy and grace never-ending! I love your perspective and your humor Sue.

    • Reply Sue June 23, 2016 at 9:55 am

      Yes, me too – Thank you, Crystal

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  • Reply SUSAN SHIPE June 22, 2016 at 7:23 am

    I have a few S cages hanging around my place too!!!

    • Reply Sue June 23, 2016 at 9:54 am

      good to know I’m not alone, susan!

  • Reply Karmen June 22, 2016 at 7:27 am

    Loved this and needed this!

    • Reply Sue June 22, 2016 at 10:41 am

      oh, good. obviously i did as well. enjoy your chairs and curb today – self care?

  • Reply Valerie Sisco at Grace with Silk June 22, 2016 at 1:15 pm

    Hi Sue,
    You have such good truth here today! I love your words about God wanting our freedom and that he gets our attention for our good, not to distress us. I needed to read this today! (And thank you for popping over to my online home and reading today! :)

    • Reply Sue June 23, 2016 at 9:53 am

      You’re welcome and vice-versa, Valerie!

  • Reply Raising Samuels June 26, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    Love this post, Sue! “Holding on too tightly to the cage.” That is so interesting, but does explain why it causes us distress when our cage does get rattled. Thanks for sharing this encouragement and message with #SocialButterflySunday! Hope to see you link up again this week :)

  • Reply Christa June 28, 2016 at 3:15 am

    How about just plain ol’ self-isnness. That’s the root of all the other “selfs”. Letting go of my needs and wants frees me from that cage and allows me to do more for others. If it was only as easy as it sounds!

  • Reply dawnklinge June 30, 2016 at 5:33 pm

    I’m praying this prayer right along with you. We all need to be saved from self-addiction. This was a great post. Thank you for linking with Grace and Truth last week. I would love to feature this tomorrow.

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